Under every post for coaching services, there is a thread of comments. Many are the same variations two questions. How does the coaching help, and does it work or why did people not get the results they wanted after working with a coach.
This is my take and my own personal experience with it. I’ve been in coaching for just over 2 years and have spent THOUSANDS … some of my coaches were AMAZING and others were not. I did loads of freebies and webinars as well. Here is the good, bad and ugly.
Starting to look for my own personal coaches, I didn’t even know what I needed so it was hard to find a good fit. I quickly learned if a coach isn’t wanting to ask you questions about who you are, what you’re trying to accomplish and what your current struggles are, they are most likely just in it for themselves. A good coach will choose you just as much as you choose them. In my own coaching biz, I have redirected people because their struggles were not my area of expertise. (This is where relationship building with other coaches is awesome because you can send business their way).
There are many spectrums of coaching – money mindset, confidence and empowerment, marketing and sales, weight loss and healthy eating, self-care coaches, branding etc. The list goes on. Sometimes you need to work with a mix of personal and business coaches to get what you need. This was definitely the case for me. My beliefs and negative patterns were so stuck that I didn’t even recognize them. It took someone else (personal coaches) pointing it out to me to get me out of my rut. Business coaches were invaluable when I was wanting to gain the strategy and tools to operate my business. (I wish I had one for my brick and mortar biz too – I was successful in it but probably would have been 10 times better!).
The online freebies, challenges and opt-ins… these CAN work but only for so long. I use the challenges and opt-ins as a way to see if that person feels like a good fit to me. If the energy was right, the tools being offered were useful and whether I felt I could be invested in the program.
There are also LOTS that I signed up for and then tossed aside because I wasn’t INVESTED in it. A growing, self-imposed to do list of courses and programs that are not a good fit is draining. The best way to counter that is go back and unsubscribe from anything that is not in line with your goals. For example – don’t really want to be a Google AdWords expert? Is that where your value lies? Or are you a better writer or designer? If so find an AdWords expert you can outsource or delegate to and unsubscribe from those courses. Focus on what you do best and where you can provide the most value. Working with a coach that is GOOD FOR YOU will help you define where your true strengths are.
A good coach will:
🙋♀️ Support you with your current goal (whatever it may be).
🙋♀️ SHOW UP for you 100%! They will bring their energy, attention and focus ALL on helping you!
🙋♀️ ACCOUNTABILITY. If you aren’t doing your part, they should be able to walk you through what’s holding you back. Let’s be real here too – if you’re bailing on yourself and then blaming the coach even after the coach calls you out you need to revisit your “Why”.
🙋♀️ Push you out of your COMFORT ZONE in order to grow and help you through that process. If they push you only to watch you fall that’s totally not ok.
🙋♀️ Take the time to understand, listen and offer solutions. They will provide you with tools and strategies to help you succeed even after you finish working with them.
🙋♀️ Have their own coach!
A final thought … I have ZERO regrets about ALL the coaches I have worked with and I totally love the one I’m working with now! They have all helped me understand how to bring the best out to my clients in my business every day.
With gratitude, Jen